Friday, September 6, 2013

That matter of Time...

My last post was not just about time... but that time is finite.
Just read this blog post that I found to be very relevant to that topic:
http://www.georgeambler.com/time-management-is-a-myth/

It is very interesting to see the difference between what we plan to do with our time - and what we actually get to do with it. Without a doubt, in our current world - most of our lives are so dynamic and full of distractions and forces pushing and pulling at us... that we loose sight of what we were planning to do.

I completely agree with the blog entry that it has to do with focus and prioritizing.
The problem may actually lie in finding the time to prioritize - OR BETTER YET - identify your "personal Hedgehog" and focus on that one thing! - remember that? ;-) To know exactly what to focus on! Wow... and undertaking unto itself.

In closing, Looking back at that Hedgehog entry, and thinking about the hedgehog vs. the fox... it turns out that being the fox may also mean being a time-waster. I guess being the know-it-all fox could make you a "try-it-all fox"... 8^!

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

We are all Time Travelers - Make the best of it!

Anyone got a Flux-Capacitor ? Better yet, a DeLorean with the Flux Capacitor already installed...
Any of us who is a child of the 80's remembers Back to the Future. There are other memorable time-travelling movies, but that one is at the top of many a list. In addition to movies, there are countless TV shows where time-travel is an awesome plot device.
In 1985... 2015 seemed like a long time into the future...
It's just 2 years away!!
By the way... Aren't we all time-travelers? What happened to 1 minute ago? Yup - we traveled 1 minute into the future from 1 minute ago. We are constantly traveling into the future. If we stop to think about it, it may feel like a slow rate, but that is just our perception.
What happened to the last 25 years of my life? They went in a flash! Perception.
Like sand in an hourglass, there is no stopping it, slowing it and definitely no way to place it back in the top. Or is there? I will not make pretend like I am some expert, but in this entry I will look at 3 simple things regarding time:

1) Scientific and nerd standpoint
2) Our Perception
3) Time management

1. Scientifically: As strange as this sounds, time is never alone. Time is woven tightly together with space. This is also known as "Spacetime" in the theory of Relativity. In fact (correct me if I am wrong) time is the result of us (or anything for that matter) travelling through space. So... why doesn't time stop if we stand absolutely still? Even if we where completely still... the Earth rotating around the Sun - and the sun rotating around the center of our Milky Way - well, you get the idea. AND... As our Universe continually expands, nothing is ever static. The only circumstance in which time slows down is when we approach the speed of light. I doubt any of us ever get to go that fast... besides, our mass would get so large - I also doubt any of us would want to.

2. Perception: Notice how like a watched kettle of water "never boils" and how fast time goes by when we're having fun? Perception. Time goes by at the same rate regardless. What I don't understand...  our thoughts travel at the speed of light - so why don't we "see" everything in "slow-motion" ? I think The Matrix addressed that somewhat... since our thoughts are so fast, once we are aware that there are no "real limits" - we can dodge bullets :D. I digress. Our perception of time is unique to the individual. However, I believe time does not wait for anyone. It is indeed constant, and it is up to us what we make of it. My perception of time? I feel like everyday I have less and less time -OR- that time is going by faster and faster. Why? The level and intensity of things going on require my attention constantly. This gives the illusion that I have less time, because I have little to no time for my own thoughts. As each day goes by, I have less and less time ahead of me (Yes... I am mortal). Looking back to my "younger years" this gives the strange feeling that all the time that has gone by (so fast). This makes me feel like I may very well be approaching "the end" more quickly. Once again, time is constant. It is all my perception, which leads me to the importance of Point #3.

3. Time Management: This may sound pessimistic (sorry), but our time is finite. There was a time I felt like I had "all the time in the world". Perhaps in my teenage years and in my 20's. Not anymore. My mortal nature is throwing reminders of my age every day. First things first or "prioritizing" has become so relevant in my life recently (perhaps because I became a dad for the 1st time a little over a month ago :) ). As I mentioned in Point #2, not only to I feel like I have less time, but what little time I have - just flies by. Optimizing what I do and when I do it is key. I have yet to follow the proper Urgent vs. Important 4 x 4 matrix on a daily basis.
Where does writing this blog entry fit?

However - I did find an awesome app My Effectiveness Habits that follows that grid, and has helped me mentally prepare priorities as I go through the week. A lot of things seem to "pile up" or get "neglected" - but it goes to show that those things that I thought were important, were in reality - not - and probably fell in the "Quadrant IV" activities I used to love (TV!!!) Technically, we are supposed to focus on Quadrant II: things that are important, but not urgent. Those things that will help ourselves in the future. I see them as things that my "future self" will be very thankful to my "past self" and pat him on the back if he could. I know, sounds silly. But when I think about how helpful an activity would be for my future self, it makes a ton of sense.
So - how do you identify "Quadrant II" activities?

Until we find a way to travel back in time (which is dangerous in itself) - we need to be very selective how we travel into the future second by second.

I leave you with an interesting quote to reflect on. A good colleague here at work mentioned it to me recently, and felt it is a good fit for this topic. Although the term "pain" and "weight" are repeated, it really is all about time. The question is: Will you be disciplined to make the best of the time that has been given to you? Or - will you squander it?.. and wish you had done something! Here it is:

“There are two types of pain you will go through in life, the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. Discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.”


-Jim Rohn

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Dilbert on Leadership!!

I must have read over a dozen of leadership books over the past 4 years. Well - with a lot of them, when I say "read" I mean listened to... yup audio books! The only ones I actually read the physical book for were The 7 Habits if Highly Effective People (a few times) and Good to Great. I guess I am forgetting the quick-reads like Our Iceberg is Melting and The Go-Giver. I guess one of the reasons I have this blog is as a virtual "bookmark/notes" I would have had in the books had I really had them.
Anyway - How did I ever get into reading all that stuff anyway? The first year I was living on my own, my current wife (then fiance), Lisa inspired me to sign-up for an online leadership course with Union Community College. At the time, I had been about 10 years in the corporate environment. Needless to say, "leadership" is a buzzword of choice many talked the talk about. Was it confused with "management" ? All the time. I believe it still is.
No.
I am not going to dive into the whole "leadership vs. management" thing here. I really wanted to make an entry centered around this awesome Dilbert strip my brother-in-law texted me the other day:

Gotta Love Dilbert!

He basically said "for your blog". Indeed!
When I got to thank him in person, we chuckled on the message delivered in the comic strip, and he commented that there is "one" true book on leadership. "Really?" I asked. He replied: "The Art of War by Sun Tzu...". Surprised, I said, "oh yea... I believe I have a copy... "
Which I do. I now owe it to myself find it and and read The Art of War in full. Make an entry?... of course.. I am not a big fan of war (although I loved GI Joe in my youth), but it is the ultimate environment in which leadership is the determinant between life & death... victory & defeat.

Before I digress, back to Dilbert - and yes... in a way, Dilbert is right! From everything I've seen so far, there is no ONE way to lead, or a defined formula for leadership. It almost has to be a unique blend of situational awareness and authentic personal attributes with responses based on principles (no techniques, please). Ok, there can be a great deal of theory that can be learned and applied. Although theory is great, I've noticed that those who are natural leaders are not easily impressed with such books or the topic. Rightfully so. I can't imagine Babe Ruth being interested in "base ball batting techniques" or how to "improve the game". Some are a natural at what they do. Period. Can you expect that such books can suddenly make an average batter into a "Babe Ruth". Doubt it. I know I can't take credit for this analogy: I guess you can teach a duck to soar with the eagles, but he is still a duck. If anything, I guess it is best to be the BEST duck one can be than to feign being something you are not... the whole "A cat does not try to be a tiger - nor should he".

But I look like a tiger in the mirror....
I believe any of us can be a leader at the appropriate moment. Each one of us has the potential to do what is tight and be the example others seek. To live principles. To find the way and empower. We don't need books for that. It's in each and every one of us. It's common sense. Sadly, it's not common practice. 

I believe understanding leadership is probably more important than trying to be "a leader". Books can be extremely helpful for this. To be a courageous follower. The man who can deliver a message to Garcia. These are just as critical, and just as sought out as true, authentic leaders.


Thursday, June 27, 2013

Transform!!

Sitting in school and waiting for the bell to ring. Not just the ring, but what followed. Running out the building, go home and tune into one of my favorite cartoons of all-time: Transformers.



Yea, there's been a few Hollywood movies lately, but I am talking about 1980's G1 goodness.
Let's not forget about the toys! Still have a bunch of the original ones - plus - a few of the new releases that make me feel like a kid all over again. Many may argue that I never really grew-up. They may be right. Perhaps all I did was really "transform" my external body... ;)

What about internal transformation? That may actually be the most difficult. We all change our exteriors: our clothes, our hair, over-all appearances (especially during Halloween) but internal change is a feet nothing short of getting a rocket into orbit.


Yes - launching a rocket into orbit is a great metaphor I recently heard in an audio-book! Indeed, the greatest amount of energy is actually required in the beginning - escaping Earth's gravity. In our case, us trying to escape our daily habits (the ones that hold us down). The interesting part is, once in orbit, there is little effort required to go 'round & 'round. For us to get "into orbit" we need to transform something relatively simple: our way of thinking. Let's imagine our rocket getting the best fuel possible.
Fuel? What motivates you? Many of us may say "money". After all, how am I to get my cool Transformers figures? In all seriousness, let's think beyond the physical. Think what really drives us regardless of tangibles. That which remains long after we're gone. Our legacy. We may not live forever, but be ready to believe that your actions will live on forever. Believe in the impact your life will leave on those who know you. On those who count on you, love you and rely on you.
Need rocket fuel? I highly recommend The Power to Transform as your station.

“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars.”

-Less Brown




Tuesday, May 28, 2013

This Boosts Productivity? Really?

Who doesn't love a good paradox? Something that is true... but can't be. Better yet, something that sounds wrong, but works. Maybe it's just me in denial. Last week, I came across this article in Yahoo! Small Business:

Five Workplace Irritations That Can Actually Boost Productivity

I implore you to take the 5 min or so to read the whole thing. Make note of some of the peoples comments. Nod, agree, disagree, laugh, shake your head, etc... then, return to this post.
How can something that is irritating, and therefore counter-productive actually be a productivity-booster? It almost negates everything I have read over the past 5 years on leadership/management and being "productive".
Although I was dumbfounded at first. I re-read it and I felt from the 5 points made, only one might have been valid. I could not wait to blog on it and make it all seem like a sham. However, I gave it some more thought. I started to realize that several of them may actually have serious footing. Instead of jumping the gun, I decided to forward the link to several of my colleagues at work. When I sent the link, I stated the reasons and I was as neutral as possible: asking for their opinions without introducing bias. Furthermore, I had an open discussion with other colleagues in our "Mini-Toastmasters" public speaking meeting last week.
What can I conclude after all this? They are all true. And... they are all false at the same time. How is this possible? Read on...

1) Sarcastic criticism from a manager or client boosts productivity
Why it's valid: Most of my colleagues agreed with this, even though they would prefer not to experience it. Some agreed that it is a short-term boost, and that in the long-term, would produce poor work performance.  So, why would criticism boost productivity? I see a few reasons why it might. For one, most of us have the innate need not to let someone down. We don't want to fail - or come across as failures. If we realized we did something wrong, we may just roll with it. Next, we will try to do anything to recover or "show them wrong". In the process, this will cause a "boost". Another reason, is the fear having to go through it again. To avoid it, we will go above and beyond to ensure we do not get on the manager's (or customer's) bad side. So, can it be a means to an end? Sometimes, sarcasm can be amusing or humorous. It can very well depend on the setting, and relationship with the manager or customer. It may also depend on your emotional strength. If you are strong enough, you can withstand the "hits" - and see beyond the criticism and realize the other person's weaknesses. Usually, those that criticize without regard for people's feelings have insecurity issues or are vowing for attention - that was never given to them as children.
Why it doesn't hold water: Who enjoys being judged or criticized? I doubt anyone raised their hand. One of my colleagues noted that when criticized:  "you’re less likely to take the initiative out of fear of screwing up; less likely to take chances". If you have enough emotional strength, there is a way to receive criticism and move-on. If you don't have the strength to do at least "10 emotional push-ups", we may take it to heart. Another great metaphor is "a withdrawal in the emotional bank account" and hold on to it on the inside and keep track. Although not manifested immediately, these knots of the heart will build up. Some may call it being passive-aggressive. Regardless, at some point, your level of cooperation will tank. Why? Truth is, we have choices:

The six levels of cooperation as seen in The 8th Habit
 In time, willful compliance can turn to malicious obedience... and so on.

2) Messy office space boosts productivity
Why it might be true: Once again, most of my colleagues agreed that a messy office space helps. Myself included. I feel like I "know" where everything is when it's a mess. Once it's clean, I can't find anything. One of my colleagues wrote: "never lost anything in the piles, and it usually means I've been too focused on the job to be a neatnick". Another interesting response from a team-member:  "It gives me a good excuse to pause when I get blocked an change gears, when I’m in cleaning mode I’m not actually thinking about anything, but I can actually see things getting done.." Very true. When I try and "clean up" my work area, it's a great springboard for starting anew. It should be a weekly activity that sets the pace for the week ahead. Almost like a proactive activity, which can't be done if my desk is already neat.
Why it doesn't cut the mustard: When the area you work in is disorganized, your thoughts have the potential of being just as disorganized. It requires discipline to be organized and keep things in order. While most contend that discipline can be stifling and "limit potential" - it is actually liberating, and gives us freedom. HOW?! Remember the metaphor of being disciplined to learn an instrument?... I was never disciplined enough to learn one -therefore- I do not have the freedom to create beautiful music. I believe there is a threshold, here it will actually stifle productivity. Some of us may be familiar with something being so messy and/or disorganized that it takes you too long to find something. It can also be embarrassing. Perhaps you can laugh it off, but it can come across as "not caring" and being "too busy". Both of which are not good messages to broadcast in the workplace.

I know I left that paper on here somewhere....

3) Noisy distractions boosts productivity
Why it might be true: Although most of my colleagues did not agree with this one, it was made clear that there are exceptions. For example, "white noise I'm okay with... it has to be constant". Others mentioned that music or constant talking was also fine. Needless to say, I too am ok with music - in fact, listening to Metallica helped me focus on studying for my final exams in college. So, yes, I can understand where it is going. We are resilient creatures. Creatures of habit - and capable of adapting to almost any environment (as long as we can survive it). As the mind copes with sources of auditory nature, it overcomes with filters that we probably take for granted. In the tradition of "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" - you become focused, and strengthen your resolve.
Why it may be just a lot of hot air: As my colleagues disagreed, they also pointed out that "irregular, random" noises are counter-productive. One of my team-members pointed out that "if I really want to get anything done I have to lock myself away in a conference room". Another colleague noted that "..nothing is more annoying and disruptive to productivity than noise. Noise makes it very difficult to focus". There is a reason why libraries have signs everywhere that say "quiet please" or "silence". Noise can be exactly that: noise - to the conscious mind, noise in the "data stream" of input can disrupt the flow... of... thought. Like random, flashing, colorful lights. Think about it - could you focus in a room like that? Get a "productivity boost"? X

Very productive environment indeed...

4) Office gossip boosts productivity
Why it works: Haven't we all done this? At some point in our careers, we all must have contributed to the fire. We all cave and give into it. After all, we all can use a "Heart Massage" - yes? Validate our feelings - usually negative - of others. It might make us feel better in the moment - as my colleague pointed out "it relieves tension". Especially if it is something that is true. When everyone can agree that something is just not right about someone, why not make the best of it? Ok, so it is at someone else's expense... but that person isn't there. Big deal. Right?
Why it may be a load of poo: One of the responses I received said it best: "gossip can also lead to division within a team/group/department and create lack of trust which can lead to back stabbing and animosity." Yep. I know this as The hidden tax: aka "Low Trust". Nothing breeds more distrust than talking behind other people's back. After someone has thrown a fellow co-worker into the rumor mill, can't you help but wonder what that same person might say about you when you are not around. I cannot recommend enough for everyone to read The Speed of Trust by Stephen M. R. Covey. The dividends of HIGH TRUST cannot be measured, but it is faster than whatever can come to mind. Just think about it. When you trust someone, even if they make a mistake - it's OK. Why? Because there is no second guessing or worrying about agendas. Have you ever been at the same wavelength with someone... where things moved swiftly? What was the trust level of that relationship?

 Interesting Blog Entry... Check it.
5) Extra work with no reward or motivation boosts productivity
Why it could be true: What? For a minute, let's put aside the typical corporate environment. Good. Now, think... Under what circumstance can this happen? Think a little more. As part of a open-group discussion, one of the attending members made a great point I would never have thought of. Entrepreneurs. Yep. Those of us who know what it is like to run your own business would agree. You wear all sorts of "hats" in the day-to-day. You work, work and work some more. Reward is no where to be seen. However, you keep on working, and sometimes you work harder and harder. Granted, there is a personal vested interest that will drive and motivate.
Why it may be enough fertilizer to cover the planet: Another great point that was brought-up in our open-group discussion is that most of us live in the "corporate america" mind-set. Is it safe to say that most of us in the corporate workforce are there for the money? After all, don't we all have bills to pay? I guess that is a general assumption, but let's look deeper. We are all more than the sum of our parts. Much more. To simplify, let's look at us comprising of the four dimensions Dr. Covey speaks of in the 8th habit: Heart, Body, Mind and Spirit. Even if you are challenged in your job (Mind), you enjoy the people you work with (Heart) and the product of your labor is fulfilling (Spirit), being compensated fairly (Body) is also important. Why?  The "body" comprises of all that which is physical: finances, possessions and of course your physical health..  If the body is neglected, what would happen? Right, the other three would have to compensate. No matter how "great" the other three are, they can never make-up for the the needs of building your financial future, eating right or taking care of your health.


In closing, I would like to confirm that they all work under certain circumstances. Simultaneously, they are all "self-evidently" not substantial. Or, should I say - non-sustaining. They all may be short-term productivity boosters, but in the end, what all organizations would want are long-term, durable, genuine productivity and innovation - from all the right roots and all the right reasons.

Friday, April 12, 2013

Listen More, Reduce Mediocrity and Redefine "Serious"

Sorry for the long title. It may sound strange, but it's almost like my "new" resolution for the rest of the year. Speaking of resolutions... the 1st quarter of the year is long gone! Not sure if any of us are on track with our "new-years resolutions" - but I feel that anytime is a good time to start a positive habit/lifestyle change. So, in the spirit of Kaisen, there are a three things I want to improve upon myself this year.

First, my ability to listen.  I don't mean "hearing people out", or trying to be a "solution provider". I mean to acquire the genuine, true skill and ability to listen to someone without trying to formulate answers and without judgement. Speaking about listening, this blog post by Eric Jacobson has ten tips on how to be a better listener. Half of which I know I will struggle with - namely: 3, 5,6,7 & 8. Coincidentally, I started "reading" the audio-book for What Got You Here Won't Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith. So far, I can tell that a HUGE part of successful people becoming more successful is indeed listening.A great concept Goldsmith introduces that I absolutely love is Feedforward. As important as feedback is, feedforward is an improvement in it's own right: looking ahead. Listening without trying to explain the past - understanding what can be done to improve for the future. In his own words: "If feedback is past tense, then feedforward is future perfect". 


Next, I am looking to do away with mediocrity.

The exception - when it draws tourism...

Although it's one of my favorite posters in Despair.com, to be half-a$$ed about certain things can be lame. Especially when it comes to things that matter. This recent Leading Blog post from Leadership Now sums it up very nicely. Making the choice to embrace responsibility and have discipline over one's self is the best mediocrity-killer. I know I haven't gotten around doing a full blog entry yet on "Think and Grow Rich" - there is one small, yet powerful phrase anyone can repeat to one's self every day to fend-off the status quo:

"Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better"

Lastly, I would like to redefine what is "serious". There is a quote I heard a long time ago:
"Don't take life too seriously, nobody ever makes it out alive anyway"
-Bugs Bunny
So, why am I trying to make light of seriousness? There is a particular attitude or outlook many leaders have that pierces the darkness of the stern reality that some may take "too seriously". No - I don't know how they do it, but I intend to learn this skill someday as well.
What am I talking about?
The ability for a leader to remain positive  and even demonstrate humor during a tough time. This is something that is admirable and noteworthy regardless of anyone's opinion. Why? It lifts the spirits and puts things into perspective for those who are following. This allows for the followers to actually keep fighting the fight instead of getting bogged-down or depressed. A few weeks ago, Linked2Leadership had this great post on the Top 5 Most Important Leadership Traits. Among them are positive attitude and humor. After all, if the world is not coming to an end, all things can be solved (you'd hope )

In closing - I would be most appreciative if everyone could help me with this. That is - give me feedforward... what I can do to improve this blog. It cannot take more than a few minutes, and it would help me to practice my "listening".. not to mention keep me away from just being mediocre in keeping up with my blog :)

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Influence others?... I'll start with me.

Let's start at the very beginning...a very good place to start... when you read you begin with A, B, C... When you lead you begin with ethos, pathos, logos... OK, so that is not quite the way it goes. But that last part is very true. 

Do Re Mi

Recently, and on more than one occasion, the topic of "influencing others" came up. Yes, there are books out there (I'll have to get to them at some point since knowing the game and strategizing is important). If you read and follow techniques on influencing others - then, that is all it will be: technique. If you steer people's thoughts in a direction that's favorable for you, it's manipulation. Let's not forget guilt-tripping, positional authority, psych-ups, etc. etc. So- what is the right way? Not sure if there is one in particular. However, I see it as good old leadership. If you want others to follow (not just be influenced) by what you said - we need to lead.  Just like before we can run, we learn to walk. Before we can walk,  most of us crawl our tumble. Before we can lead, we cannot do without these three (in order):
Ethos: The source's credibility
Pathos: The emotional appeal / language
Logos: The logic and facts


By the way, I have yet to meet someone who does not to love The Sound of Music. "Do Re Mi" is not only a great song (sing-along or otherwise), it is a great example that we need basic building blocks and a natural order of progression in order to create. In this case, they are a prerequisite to creating a song and singing!

Of the 3 basic building blocks, Ethos is my personal favorite. Why?

Sunday, February 17, 2013

Kaizen is NOT a destination

January is long gone. 2013 is well underway, and I have yet to write my 1st blog post. Since it is still early in the year,  let's look at a topic that we all think about when a new year starts... change. OK - not just change: Improvement. That's right. We all seek to improve ourselves in some way around this time of the year. However, we often abandon in mid-transition. Sticking to the transition and incorporating it as routine is the trick. When it comes to "rubber meets the road" notice how it's easier to stick to things that are small? Who would think that the trick is exactly that - sticking to things that are small. 
Small changes. 
Repetitive. 
Consistent.
I recently finished "reading" another great audio-book: The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy. As many of you know, I have been reading all sorts of audio-books lately. Yes, even some HALO audio-books!

Mater Chief: The ultimate example of "improvement"

Although I always love to read and digest thought-provoking subject matter. The unfortunate side-effect is the resulting "belly ache" from trying to take it all in at once. The information is so rich, it is hard to integrate it into life right away - or - find immediate application to the everyday routine.